Is Anxiety Limiting Your Potential For Happiness And Emotional Connection?
Are you a successful, intelligent individual, yet you never feel good enough or even capable of enjoying your accomplishments? Do you feel like you always have to be perfect or else people will discover that you are an “imposter”? Is your mind so preoccupied with other people's needs, their perception of you, and whether or not you're a good person that you’re having trouble focusing, sleeping well, or even taking care of your own needs?
Perhaps you avoid social settings because underlying anxiety fuels negative, bitter, or cynical thoughts that make it difficult to fully engage and feel included. Or maybe you have a difficult time maintaining intimate relationships because you either stress about getting too close or worry about being rejected once you do.
Anxiety and/ or depression can have a profound impact on anyone’s life, but if you are a conscientious, achievement-oriented individual, it can manifest in unique ways. For instance, perhaps your individuality has always been an asset, but you never quite felt accepted or connected to your family as a result. Or maybe the pressure to always be on the move is evolving into anger and aggression, creating tension in your relationships. If you are accustomed to being in control of things, dealing with these powerful, confusing emotions can add yet another layer of frustration to the mix. Consequently, you’re likely second-guessing yourself and ruminating on ways you could be doing things better.
At this point, you are probably just looking for a way to shut your mind down for a while and take stock in the life you’ve created for yourself. With my support and guidance, you can learn how to love yourself, improve your relationships, and simply enjoy your life in peace.
Anxiety (& depression) Is Extremely Common—Especially In Metropolitan Life
Anxiety, the most prominent mental health concern in the US, affects over 40 million adults every year.* And just because you are successful or have an otherwise good life doesn’t mean that you are immune. In fact, many goal-oriented and success-driven people who have come from humble roots frequently struggle with anxiety.
Sometimes, that can be the result of a person’s background and early family life. For instance, if you grew up in an environment where you had to excel in order to stand out or avoid abuse, you may have developed perfectionist or people-pleasing tendencies as an adult. Conversely, if you were subjected to neglect or overt criticism without appreciation as a child, you may have grown to question your own worth—especially in the absence of success. In either case, the self-doubt and resulting need for validation can become a part of who you are—pushing you to constantly go go go!
Even the nature of living in the city can make you feel inadequate as you measure your life against others’. Moreover, the “work hard/play hard” mindset built into the culture of highly competitive industries, such as finance or law, can make anxiety seem like a natural part of life. And because you work so hard, it’s easy to feel entitled to some sort of escape—even if it is unhealthy. But in the end, trying to drown out the stress and self-doubt only makes you prone to professional burnout, anger management issues, relationship stress, or even depression.
The tragic thing is that many high-achievers have taught themselves how to turn their anxiety into something productive. So it can be hard to surrender to a reality in which you have to challenge those things because in many ways they have paid off in real dividends. But working with an anxiety counselor can help you take control and own your life without having to constantly reaffirm your value through success. With a little work, you can learn how to take a step back, relax, and enjoy your accomplishments without feeling irresponsible.
Anxiety Treatment Offers You Empowerment And Direction
Anxiety & depression therapy acts as a safe, compassionate space where you can give floor time to your emotions, thoughts, and experiences and reflect on how they all come together to create who you are. It helps identify your real needs, explore your desires, and reveal ways in which you may be helplessly perpetuating the cycle of neglect you suffered somewhere in life. With a little work, you can set a healthy baseline for your feelings while learning to honor your emotional self, heal old wounds, and validate your own worth.
I offer a growth-oriented approach to healing that is both tender and forthright. I also like to make things light and humorous because, when you get down to it, some of the thoughts we can have about ourselves are outright ridiculous. In some ways, I think of counseling for anxiety as a collaborative conversation—an exchange of ideas—with an impartial ally who can offer you clarity and direction.
To that end, we’ll begin by gently peeling away the layers of your anxiety, looking to the past for any contributing factors. We may explore childhood experiences, relationships with friends, romantic partnerships, failures, uncomfortable moments in life, trauma, sex, success—anything that gives us insight. We’ll also identify any adverse experiences or instances of neglect that may have made it difficult to love yourself. And we can discuss what healthy success looks like versus what it intrinsically means to you. Additionally, we can work on setting healthy boundaries, changing unhealthy behaviors, and adopting accurate representations of yourself and your worth.
Each person’s experience with anxiety & depression is different, so I offer a range of treatment methods. Using psychoanalysis blended with a solution-focused, growth-oriented approach to healing, we’ll identify any experiences from the past that are hijacking your life so you can change the way they affect you. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) is a powerful tool that helps you spot traps in negative thinking so you can reframe misconceptions into something more positive and realistic. Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) therapy enables you to access and process memories and events—especially related to neglect—providing rapid relief for severe symptoms of anxiety.
I know that it can be hard to convince yourself to slow down and ask for help, but you deserve to enjoy life and feel good about yourself. With my support, you can finally let go of the past and feel secure in who you are now. Further, you can learn how to communicate better, foster greater intimacy with your partner, and be more comfortable with a wider range of emotions.
Whatever impact anxiety is having on your life, I can help you come to a place of guiltless contentment and internal peace.
Perhaps you’re considering anxiety (& depression) treatment but still have some questions or concerns…
Does therapy for anxiety really work?
Right now, you are likely stuck in patterns of behavior that you have been unable to change on your own—patterns that you might not even be aware of. But just as you would seek out a mechanic for your car or a personal trainer for the gym, an anxiety counselor can help you take concrete steps to make sustainable improvements in your overall well-being. I am very passionate about what I do because I love seeing my clients grow, and I know from personal experience just how life-changing anxiety counseling can be.
I’m worried that talking about things might make it worse.
Treatment for anxiety has many layers, some of which can be uncomfortable but so are the limitations, edginess, and unhappiness that anxiety causes. Often there is a lot of avoidance around seemingly negative experiences, such as feeling shameful, being angry, needing something/someone, or not feeling good enough. What we frequently ignore is that avoiding all these negative emotions also means that we’re shutting down positive emotions.
As a result, life starts to feel dull and even depression might kick in. So one of my goals is to honor your healing process by striking a balance in which you always feel challenged—but safe. In doing so, I can help you develop a healthier skill set to manage things like fear, self-doubt, and vulnerability.
Why do I need someone else’s help?
My clients appreciate the value of working with a professional to overcome personal struggles—especially as it relates to mental health because it impacts every single aspect of their lives. Yet, they initially struggle to reach out because they are not comfortable relying on other people—which is a clear indicator of the problem at hand. Some people may also believe that what's happened to them is "silly" compared to what other people have been through, and therefore, they should be able to resolve it on their own.
However, anxiety therapy with me is about validating your experiences, fostering inner safety, and ultimately putting yourself (not your anxiety) in control. And even though you are temporarily relying on someone else, we both know that you don’t need help forever. Therefore, my hope is to quickly get you to a place where you no longer need my guidance.
Give Yourself Permission To Stop Worrying And Be Happy
If you are struggling with anxiety, imposter syndrome, or self-esteem issues, I can help. Please call 786-366-6030 for your free, 15-minute consultation to see how my approach to anxiety treatment may be able to help you feel happy, healthy, and whole.
Anxiety in a Nutshell
As much as we hate anxiety, it could be a wonderful alarm system calling our attention to unmet needs and overlooked emotions. Together, you'll learn symptom management tools, understand what anxiety is trying to tell you and heal those parts that are crying out for help. Below you can find some techniques to recognize and manage symptoms. However, our work in therapy is much deeper than that. Our ultimate goal is heal the wounds that create the anxiety and depression. Anxiety and depression are like a fever. In the same way a fever tells you that there's an infection, anxiety and depression alert you of psychological wounds. We'll create a safe space where curiosity and exploration substitute fear and shame so you heal and blossom into your real self.
Worrying too much & too often
Low energy (fatigue)
Hard time concentrating and making decisions
Difficulty sleeping and unwinding
Feeling like something bad is going to happen
Feeling tense and/or easily irritable
Shortness of breath
Increased heart rate
Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
Identify and challenge cognitive distortions such as:
Black and white thinking
Polarized thinking, etc.
Progressive muscle relaxation
Playing the script until the end
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy
Clarify your values
Two sides of the same coin
The cost of avoidance, etc.